Chemistry Final Round, KnockOut

I just skipped the suggested time to small talk by email with my first fella and asked him if we should just grab a coffee to see if we get along in real life. This is out of character for me.I also just almost died a horrible death due to wet paint on a floor. I survived and now just the bottom of my shoes are painted gray. My rash actions probably have something to do with the flashes of dying alone I had as I slid around uncontrollably inside a pitch black server closet.Ninja spies get your outfits ready for Operation Follow Kristen and Make Sure She Isn't Murdered. This is assuming he says yes and not just bugger off.

Chemisty Round Three ::Ding Ding Ding::

♫ First comes profile perusing, then comes graph-age, then comes short answers in a baby carriage. ♫

My songwriting leaves something to be desired, it's true.

I have moved onto step three with two lucky fellows (not the same as base three, I'm a lady, thank you). Step three I get to pick six short answer questions from a list to send him and he gets to do the same for me. There is a twitter-esque character limit for the answers so it becomes a real test of by abilities to answer the question and prove how amusing I am. I handled it though don't you worry. I tend to pick questions about music, travel and family. Both times I got a question asking me about my life motto. I answered differently each time because, well, I don't know that I have a life motto. Once I said something about bugs and pigs ending with a not-at-all-smooth "this is nothing." The next time I said something about saying yes to your friends or they will stop asking you to hang out. Not very strong life mottos. Do people really have life mottos? Tattoos of bible verses do not count, in my arrogant opinion.

Somehow I've also accidentally started along the path of contact with someone I did not mean to and now there is no getting out. Really, I've searched all over for a "yikes nevermind," "upon further consideration, nope," or a"please make him go away" buttons but haven't found one. He's not scary or anything I just should have clicked the "I don't like yo' face" button, oh right there isn't one.

Chemistry: Round Two ::ding ding::

Once you choose to learn more about someone the next step is, thankfully, quite simple. If I knew how to screen shot it, I would but I'm not as technologically advanced as I've led people to believe. Basically, there are about fifteen line graphs with titles like " he is good at saving money" and "loves pets" that you can move a little cursor between very important or not important. It is the same for every person and thankfully Chemistry saves your answers so you don't have to go through the list every time. Then you are supposed to compare your answers to his. I think this tool is only useful if the two answers were on opposite ends, otherwise it's just kind of a pretty to look at line graph.

Post edit:

Harry Potter, the way to my Heart

I responded to a person just because he knew that my picture was me dressed up as Luna Lovegood. It's a very effective screening process, that picture. Yoda thinks so too.

Chemistry Round One ::Ding::

My method worked and now I have a lot of perusing and deciding to do. I must have chosen my words and photos wisely (or people are easily impressed) because I have ten suitors interested in me and one who noticed me. I don't know what the difference is between the two categories.
The first on the list has a headline that reads "I love my wiener...dog that is :)" Poorly chosen words and use of emoticon. Makes me think of the unfortunate picture of a testicle I received on my phone on Friday night and my college roommate's annoying dog. His profile isn't too bad but he doesn't provide a picture which is just dumb, in my opinion. This isn't the Dating Game, dude.

Second guy has a picture and looks like my Godfather and some creepy Everquest player mated about 29 years ago. At this point I wonder, if you know you won't be attracted is it even worth it to spend the 36.8 seconds reading the profile? He needs a singer.... I'm not your lady, at all.

Third guy, no picture again. I just don't understand this. I might have liked you but you aren't showing all your cards... Next. Oh there is a button you can click to "request photo," still stupid.
Fourth guy, is it wrong to deny someone for simply wearing a paperboy hat?

Oh man I just realized there are more than ten to go through. This is time consuming....

Found a potential. He has stupid facial hair but well that's more temporary than a love for paperboy hats. I will click... learn more.
I'm learning a lot about myself through this process for instance I don't want to date a cast member of The Newsies, fellas who aren't ballsy enough to include a picture or guys with pear shaped heads.

You had me until "my favorite band is Social Distortion." I'm a snob, I fully admit it.
Ok eventhough you have an non-ironic mohawk and a frat t-shirt on, I'll give it a shot. See, detailed profiles can make a difference.

I still can't believe that they don't have the option of "not attracted to yo' face." Is it to make people feel better? So you are forcing me to lie?

Chemistry lists what the person has chosen to look for along side what they "are" and I find it, I don't know, lazy verging on desperate if every answer is "any" or "no prefrence." Really, you don't care if I'm a 400 pound, worshipper or Satan, divorcee with 3 kids who lives with her parents and drinks like a fish? Ok then.

I think I'm done. I currently have six Connections, meaning I clicked "Learn More," one "Decide Later" and four chaps waiting in limbo, sorry chaps.

Total time: 1.5 hours-ish

Sign Up: Chemistry

Money wins out that and I feel like a lot of people have tried Match and I've never personally heard great things.

So Chemisty.com's deal makes it $49.95 for 3 months. That may sound like a lot of sweet sweet cash, and it is, but eharmony last year cost me $60 per month and I definitely didn't not get enough hot dates paid for to cover that expense.
Taking the "Analytical Questions" Survey:

I'm intrigued the very first question is about the purportions of my right hand. Mine is "index finger slightly shorter than ring finger." I hope there is a palm reading next.

These questions are so different than the old standards. I'm an oldest child, looking for a single or double income marriage or I don't know, my sock drawer is just a little bit neat (I didn't ask about suspicious items that may or may not be currently hiding in it). Now I have to put my friends into a category, this one is harder. Choices: Social Crowd, Intellectuals, Adventurists or Acitivists. I'll call you guys Intellectuals, I don't know.
Now I have to play some kind of space perception game, gosh, this is bizzare.

Then standard questionnare.

Haha oh it's asking about my doodles. The gig is up, I draw hearts but only becasue I have very lousy drawing skills and hearts and cubes are the only things I've ever really been able to draw. You should see my attempts at stars, downright pitiful.

Picking a title for a book based on the cover picture. At this point I'm so interesting I want to date myself.

Light Yellow is the color I chose to describe my personality.

Woot! Got my second puzzle totally right! (That's assuming there is a right). That's going to come up I'm sure.

Now on to my Personal History etc...
This site uses more visuals than I've ever seen. Good work keeping me interested.

Is it important if my match has children? I don't know. I'm sad that I'm old enough now that this is a real potential issue.

And my least favorite part.... Headlines and Bios. Bleh.
Headline: Have you met my friend Kristen? (HIMYM stealing there and sad 3rd person narrative)
Bio: Admitted I like Harry Potter, the Economist and sometimes a comic book. Bring on the hot nerds!

Finished. Time: 45 minutes or so.

Personality Profile: Plenty of Fish

I'm convinced these always say the same thing, that or I'm good at always lying the same way to myself and my internet test givers...

Your Chemistry

Test Results

Self-Confidence

As someone with high self-confidence, you feel quite comfortable interacting with other people. Indeed, you find the company of others very stimulating and enjoy meeting new people. Your relaxed demeanor in groups makes people around you comfortable too. Perhaps because you feel comfortable talking about yourself, others tend to enjoy being around you and perceive you as socially competent.

The confidence that helps you feel comfortable talking to people also spills into your own personal beliefs about yourself. Although you have several strengths, it’s likely that you also acknowledge and accept your weaknesses. But unlike some people, you take full responsibility for your actions—you rarely regret things you’ve done in the past and are not embarrassed easily.

Perhaps the defining feature that sets you apart from most people is the exceptionally high standards that you set for yourself. Your competence in social gatherings as well as at work should provide ample evidence for this. With these characteristics, it’s very likely that people come to you for advice and generally think of you as someone with leader-like qualities.

Family Orientation

As someone who is oriented to familial matters, you value the company of family-members and domestic life. If you have children already, you enjoy spending time with them very much and work hard to be a good parent. If you don’t have children, you very much desire having children in the future. And your preference for cooking and entertaining guests at home will likely ease the transition into parenthood.

You take pride in maintaining and cultivating a healthy family and work hard to achieve this. This natural tendency is easily illustrated by your preference for doing things around the house as opposed to going out to clubs and restaurants.

What really sets you apart from people that are low in family orientation is that you know how to manage your frustrations and work well on your own. This means that you are well-equipped to manage a family without letting all the work that is involved wear you down. However, as someone with strong family values, all the work that is involved in maintaining a tidy home and well-stocked kitchen might occasionally make it difficult for you to finish everything that you need to do.

Self-Control

The self-control personality dimension captures the way in which a person regulates and directs him or herself. Being low in self-control can be both good and bad. Occasionally people may be compelled to follow their intuitions and give in to their temptations, and your degree of self-control makes this likely to happen more often than not. This can be good in circumstances where being relaxed and open are important. However, in situations where it is necessary to be focused and careful, you might find that you do or say things that may be inappropriate.

As someone who exerts little control over your actions, you may find that you commit social blunders that might offend other people and get yourself in trouble. For example, if you’re given responsibility to work on a project that requires close attention to detail, you may be likely to overlook important details because you have difficulty staying focused. Consequently, you might feel more comfortable delegating such tasks to other people who are more detail oriented. Being able to recognize such characteristics in yourself and having more detail-oriented people do such tasks could be an effective way to manage your own stress level.

Low self-control may diminish your effectiveness at work. Acting too relaxed can make it difficult for you to focus on projects that require organized sequences of steps or stages. Thus, your ability to accomplish may be inconsistent. Indeed, it’s possible that you might be criticized periodically for being unreliable or unable to “stay within the lines.” Nonetheless, you may still experience many short-lived pleasures and never be thought of as boring.

Openness

As someone high in openness, you have a strong appreciation for beauty, both in art and nature. Indeed, it’s likely that you are easily absorbed in music and art, as well as natural phenomena. Another aspect of your openness is your emotional insight; that is, you probably have good access to and awareness of your own emotions.

Another aspect of the openness dimension is the tendency to think about abstract concepts and ideas. This thinking style may take the form of artistic and metaphorical use of language, and/or music composition or performance. Thus, it is likely that, either in your work or spare time, you enjoy activities that get your “creative juices” flowing.

Your tendency to be open-minded can have advantages and disadvantages. For instance, when there are no clear rules about how to approach a particular problem, your openness makes it easier for you to identify new ways to solve problems that might not be very obvious to people that are not as open as you are. In contrast, you may be bored easily in situations that lack high amounts of intellectual stimulation. In such cases, you might have difficulty excelling on projects that do not provide much stimulation or require much creative thinking.

Easygoingness

Easygoingness refers to one's ability to relax. Based on your score, you appear to “take things as they come” and enjoy having a good time. However, being high in easygoingness also has the potential to produce stress in a number of ways. For example, you may find it difficult to complete tasks thoroughly and efficiently. In this way, being high in easygoingness cannot only make your life difficult, but also the lives of the people around you. Another potential problem with being too high in easygoingness is that it can provide you with gratification in the short-term, but in the long-term provide undesirable consequences.

High easygoingness, even when not seriously destructive, may also diminish your effectiveness at work, for example. You may find it aversive and difficult to put in all the effort that may sometimes be needed to effectively accomplish certain tasks. For this reason, your colleagues might view you as forgetful and unfocused.

How does your personality affect your love life?

With the strong degree of self-confidence that you possess, it’s no surprise that you get along well with most people. Indeed, it’s self-confidence that allows people to feel comfortable interacting with others without feeling insecure and vulnerable. For this reason, you shouldn’t have much difficulty in romance, at least not initially. Your social skills will likely help relieve any anxiety your romantic partners might have on those first few dates. However, over time, the high standards that you have for yourself could potentially frustrate your partner.

Given how much you value family life, you probably get along best with people who share your values and beliefs. In fact, it’s likely that you maintain close connections with members of your immediate and distant family. For this reason, you would probably be most satisfied in a romantic relationship with someone who also values domestic life.

Being in a relationship with someone who enjoys going out to parties and staying-up late at night might be fun, at least initially; yet it’s likely that you will find this tiring over time. Thus, it might be easier and more satisfying for you to develop a long-lasting relationship with a person who also enjoys spending time at home and desires starting a family. On first dates, perhaps you might suggest to your partner that the two of you spend a quiet night having dinner at one of your respective homes instead of going out to a restaurant or club.

As someone who is more relaxed than most people, you likely get along with most people quite well. Chances are that your friends and colleagues perceive you as lively, fun to be with, and good-humored. When it comes to romance, you’ll likely be attracted to most people. However, your free-spirited nature might make being in a relationship with a person that is more rigid than you difficult because you might perceive the person as being too uptight and controlling.

Your openness probably makes it easy for you to respect and appreciate people that are different from you. However, when it comes to romantic relationships, your openness might make it difficult for you to tolerate people that cannot appreciate diversity as much as you. Therefore, you may be happiest in serious relationships with people that share your open-mindedness. But, your openness might occasionally cause a certain degree of dependency on your end because you may be so open that you easily adopt the preferences and habits of your partners and gradually relinquish things that make you so unique.

Signing up: Plenty of Fish

Currently signing up for Plenty of Fish. It's free which I have to agree with. It's the only site I've been to where my go to username is already taken. I don't know if that's a bad sign, has someone stolen my internet dating identity? Are they getting dinners and coffees instead of me? Stephanie Tanner would rightly say "how rude!" Now I'm at a loss for a username, people have clever things like Golfer_David. What would mine be then? SometimescombsmyhairKristen? Seems too long. I'mgonnaBlogaboutyou_K? Not sending the right message. PastaLova_09? I feel like I'm in 7th grade and trying to come up with a cool AIM name again, blast.... ahh misskd, good not taken.

The form is not too extensive. There are different options for "What I am Looking for" considered choosing "Hang Out" when I remembered this can mean very different things to different people.

Do I socially do drugs? Why is this a question? How do I know you aren't a cop? This form encourages lying, what a way to start a relationship.
Now for a headline? It suggests "Looking for a Good Hearted Man." That's not really my style. This is hard. I will put "Fish are slimy but Sushi is tasty"

Am I the only person that finds interests difficult to fill out? I always end up feeling boring.

Finished profile and uploaded a picture. Now I must take a personality quiz, this is more time consuming than I thought a free site would be. Only 40-something questions, not too bad. I'm sure they know everything about me now.

I'll post my personality profile in the next post.

About Me...

If at this point you are wondering. And I give a crap why? Good Question. The answer is you don't. But unless you are like the last three guys I've met you may want to know a little bit about me before you make that decision.
So I've prepared a session where I ask myself questions and then answer them, the mark of a true genius (person with no one to talk to). Feel free to ask additional questions in the comments section.

Kristen: Tell us a little bit about yourself.
Me: Well I'm a single (obviously) 26 year old lady living in Denver, Colorado. I attended and graduated university. I have a job, an apartment and a Prius. I don't have a cat but only because my building doesn't allow them. I'm an avid rule follower, for the most part. I enjoy proper use of adverbs and walking *slowly* on the beach.

Kristen: So what you can't get a boyfriend?Me: It appears that to be the case. I have had boyfriends but I haven't had a serious relationship in about 3 years.

Kristen: Why do you think you haven't found one?
Me: Opinions vary, from it must not be the right time to the possibility that I'm incredibly intimidating.
Kristen: Have you ever online dated before?
Me: I have in fact. I tried Eharmony just about this time last year. I went on one dud date and then on my second date met a guy that I on and off dated for about 7 months.
Kristen: Wouldn't you consider that a success then?
Me: I tend to be a bit hyper-critical but the fact that he was a self-absorbed ass I feel nullifies the suggested success.

Kristen: So why do this? And why now?
Me: Every single person I know is getting married. I need a date to the weddings. That or my pool of potentials is getting smaller. The Eharmony commercials told me that clubs and bars aren't for me and I believe them.
Kristen: What exactly will you be doing here then?
Me: I will post about the steps I take to find dudes and dates that I go on. I plan to join 2 to 3 dating sites, go speed dating and other opportunities as they present themselves. I will be honest here about myself but use fake names for others if necessary.
Kristen: What do you hope to gain from this experience?
Me: Good stories.

Kristen: Why the hot pink?
Me: To be as annoyingly girly as possible.
Kristen: Happy Hunting!
Me: Thank you!